When You Lose Your Temper: Caring for a Loved One with Alzheimer’s

Family caregivers struggle with a variety of emotions. Even though you may at times lose your temper, do not dwell upon it. Trying to “do it all” catches up to the best of us. Seek respite for yourself from a professional agency if/when the stress become unmanageable. To learn about using our free Care Advisor service for senior home care, and access our Provider Network of licensed, insured agencies, visit us at Advocare. No fee or contract is necessary to use the services of our Care Advisor. A Certified Senior Advisor will discuss your care needs, develop a profile of the best candidate, and schedule interviews with potential caregivers from multiple agencies. Our unique model allows the agencies to compete for your business and helps you choose the best caregiver for the best price.

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Caregiver Confessions: When You Lose Your Temper
Firsthand advice from a caregiver who’s been there

All caregivers “lose it” sometimes. We lose patience. We yell. We have your basic meltdown. Even the most mild-mannered among us get just plain angry.

“I snapped at my mother!” says TV-radio personality Leeza Gibbons, who founded the Leeza’s Place communities for caregivers after her late mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease. “It was so not me.”

(Go here for video of Leeza Gibbons at www.caring.com)

More tips:

Don’t waste a second beating yourself up over it. Everyone loses their temper sometimes, even before the super-stresses of caregiving. Best to forgive (yourself) and forget. Move on.

Realize why you snapped. Losing one’s cool is directly related to being depleted. When you’re physically exhausted, it’s hard to stay mentally on top of your game.

Consider angry outbursts as calls for better self-care. Deep, calming breaths really can help you regain self-control when you feel yourself spiraling out of it.

Know that where you direct anger isn’t the same as the source of the anger. It’s common for caregivers to snap at the care receivers they love. That’s because we can’t snap at the real source of our anger: the situation itself (the disease, a lack of support, a bad day). The person in our care is just an easy target.

Find outlets for anger. For some people, it’s exercise. For others, it’s a journal or coffee-and-kvetching with a good friend. Primal screaming (in the privacy of your car) can help let off steam, too.

When your anger frightens you, tell someone. Chronic anger is unhealthy. If you find you can’t offload enough of it, arrange to talk to a clergy person, therapist, or other counselor who can help you find ways to manage this difficult emotion.

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